Single and Not Ready To Mingle

        In society If you are single, there is something wrong with you to give you that status. If you are in a relationship, you are normal. This is complete bullshit because since when did your relationship status define you? Whether you are single or not it should not determine who you are or put you in a specific social ranking.

I am 27 years old and am a single mom. I am fairly attractive, educated with street and book smarts, and have a decent personality. I am asked by men “Why are you single?” “You must be crazy” “What is wrong with you?” all the time. I simply respond because I choose to be. People act like it is a crime to be single! I could be in a relationship if I wanted to be but I refuse to settle for just anyone. I know what I am looking for in a man and what to avoid due to hit and misses over the years. I almost got married once and thankfully I had enough sense not to as I realized he was not “The One.”

One complaint I have as a single woman is about the people who say that someone who is single should NOT give relationship advice. Funny how I am single and have my own advice column http://www.icanexplain.net where people unknowing of my relationship status, thank me for the advice I have given. Just because you are single doesn’t mean you don’t have good insight on relationships…Especially when most people are unsuccessful in marriage and are in relationships/marriages for the wrong reasons. I have encountered men with the same problem…If they are single it is because they are overly cocky or a player. This isn’t always the case. There are good men and women out there that just have not found the right person yet and do not feel the need to rush into anything. I applaud the people who are comfortable in their own skin enough to resist society’s demand to be with someone. It takes a strong and independent person to be single and be happy with it. There is nothing wrong with being single and not looking. I feel more people should try being single for 6 months or longer. I believe they will find a more complete person that is ready for a relationship. I hope I meet my soulmate one day, until then I am going to enjoy my freedom and enjoy being single because it is NOT a bad thing... Loneliness is only a state of mind.