“Hey Jealousy”

Have you ever been in love and got a little  jealous over the attention your mate gets from other men/women? Everyone gets a little jealous sometimes. I think a small amount of jealousy can be flattering and can help a relationship even. It is when it becomes excessive or crazy that it can become damaging.

They say jealousy is an ugly monster and it eats away at you…Truth. People can get sooo caught up in personal jealousy that they start to make mountains out of mole hills and question EVERYTHING. What if….? What does that mean? you get the point. This is so stressful and destructive on a person’s relationship and when inner peace becomes lost over it, it is so not worth it.

In this day in age, social media has provided a gateway to deceitful behavior and it is the easiest it has ever been to lie and cover the tracks. People can have doubles lives and as close as you think you are to someone, the further you may actually be from your “real” significant other. Deleting text messages, inboxed messages, and deleting call history enables the cheater and feeds the worrying jealous nature of the dating world.

I can say from personal experience that I have had more than one of my friend’s girlfriends’ call or text me wanting an explanation for our friendship. Jealousy drives many men and women to step outside of their happy content selves to the extremes like stalking and invading privacy. Before you know it, people can become totally consumed by this need when really, they just need to stop being so insecure and learn to handle a little competition. If you do not want anyone flirting with your man/woman, date an ugly person 😉 Communication and open honesty is key in relationships but it seems our society is forgetting how to talk out loud. People can still be trusted in this day of endless temptations, opportunity, and lustful intentions. Once sex became easier to get love became harder to find and trust issues maximized. Once you let your jealousy get the best of you, paranoia will set in but if you just stop to think about some of the things in this short list before you get caught up, it might give you some peace of mind.

  1. Do NOT go through your significant others phone, it is an invasion of privacy and although some say you shouldn’t have anything to yourself in a relationship if there are no secrets but think of how paranoid you will end up wondering if everything YOU say could be taken the wrong way…
  2. Be happy when people flirt with your man/woman…you’re dating someone attractive and charming and they are all yours, lucky you! Self Confidence is a key factor in jealousy.
  3. Do not let it makes you become a crazy person, insanity is NOT attractive and your actions could push them away from you.
  4. If someone is making you jealous ask yourself why do you really feel that way? Is the situation a just cause for such a feeling? If so, communication may be needed to set boundaries to prevent crossing the line.

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