The Breakup

I have realized it is time to breakup with my best friend, Coffee or at least take some time off. This is going to be tough but it is time for me to get more Sleep. I need it and miss it. Here are my letters to my two closest friends.

 

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Dear Sleep,

Hello? How have you been? I am doing ok, I know we have been very distant lately but things would be much better if you were here. I miss you terribly and would love for you to come visit, preferably between the hours of 10pm-10am. I sincerely believe we could be close again although I understand my 3 month old and 7 year old get in the way of our relationship but in time, I think you could be their friend too. You just have to give it a chance, they really quite likable. Another thing, just because I like Coffee does not mean that I like you any less. I feel like we could all get along if we try. Ok, well Sleep, please visit me more often, I really need you to get me through the day, well think it over and please consider giving me another chance.

Love,

Kris

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Dear Coffee,

Hello my friend, how are you? I’m doing ok. Look, I am just going to say this bluntly. We need to spend some time apart. Its not you, its me. I appreciate all that you have done for me and I don’t know how I could have gotten through the last couple months without you. You lifted me up when I was tired and when I thought I could not last another minute you woke me up. Now the baby is starting to snooze at night more and now it is time for me to get back together with Sleep. We can have a healthy balance right? Do not worry, I still need you, just not as often as before.  Don’t be mad at Sleep, its just that…I need it more then you. You understand right? Ok, well I’ll drink you when I drink you, Peace.

Love,

Kris

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Wish me luck everyone!

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The Easy Life

In life, we all go through trials and tribulations, tough situations with painful emotions and life changing circumstances. No one is exempt not even the seemingly perfect people in our lives. Love and grief are the emotions in life that probably affect our inner peace and happiness the most. We make our lives complicated by the choices we make everyday but life itself is easy. Little mistakes can be life-altering as well as fate sealing.
How to live life freely:
1). Remember all things in life are fixable, there’s a solution to every problem
2). Loneliness is only a state of mind…find comfort within yourself
3). Love is true when your heart is true, it knows your brain better then you do but your brain knows your heart better then you do as well

Finding happiness is about finding yourself and surrounding yourself with people who are genuine and love you for you despite your worst flaws. You can choose to be complicated and choose your own sense of completion. See, life is as easy as you make it, just CHOOSE it.

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The “in between” the “in between the lines”

Some people are more dense then others. Some people, and we all know them, are able to read in between the lines and can decipher our exact meaning behind our thoughts and intentions. Others are only able to see what’s point blank. Those people are very annoying and explaining myself gets repetitive. I’m sure you have wanted to shake someone and yell “duh! Take a hint”.

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The Act Of Failing To Remember Who You Are

Everyone  has a midlife crisis and some people have them daily. I think that everyone second guesses themselves even the most confident and self-assured of people. I know I have my days where I feel so lost. What do I really want to do as a career? Am I going in the right direction in life? Am I good enough parent? Do my shoes even match my outfit today?  LOL. Are my friends really loyal to me and am I as loyal as I should be to them? I know deep down I just have to remember who I really am and by doing that I’m realizing my strengths and weaknesses. Knowing what those are, I can better my knowledge of  thy self  and then become a better person. This will ultimately lead to confidence and love for myself. I know I struggle to decide who I am, not everyday but certainly enough, do you?

Positively Negative Thinking

Is your glass half empty or have full? Are you a positive Percy or a negative Nancy? I’m more of a doubtful Doug if you ask me. If my cup is half full or half empty depends on what is in it. If it has wine in it, then its a very positive thing if its half  lol. Either way, i’m going to need more wine eventually…doubtful thinking is me wondering if I really need to fill my cup more then stressing about it. I am indecisive and it comes from being a Virgo and being a worry wart, or a worry beauty mark (sounds better). There are studies that show that being a positive thinker helps reduce stress and can promote a healthier lifestyle. Positive thinking can be hard when you are facing life’s most challenging vices and being told to cheer up makes you feel like smacking someone. “Easy for you to say, you’re not going through this”. Ways to cheer yourself up are easy you just have to want to feel better because of course, misery loves company.

“Hey Jealousy”

Have you ever been in love and got a little  jealous over the attention your mate gets from other men/women? Everyone gets a little jealous sometimes. I think a small amount of jealousy can be flattering and can help a relationship even. It is when it becomes excessive or crazy that it can become damaging.

They say jealousy is an ugly monster and it eats away at you…Truth. People can get sooo caught up in personal jealousy that they start to make mountains out of mole hills and question EVERYTHING. What if….? What does that mean? you get the point. This is so stressful and destructive on a person’s relationship and when inner peace becomes lost over it, it is so not worth it.

In this day in age, social media has provided a gateway to deceitful behavior and it is the easiest it has ever been to lie and cover the tracks. People can have doubles lives and as close as you think you are to someone, the further you may actually be from your “real” significant other. Deleting text messages, inboxed messages, and deleting call history enables the cheater and feeds the worrying jealous nature of the dating world.

I can say from personal experience that I have had more than one of my friend’s girlfriends’ call or text me wanting an explanation for our friendship. Jealousy drives many men and women to step outside of their happy content selves to the extremes like stalking and invading privacy. Before you know it, people can become totally consumed by this need when really, they just need to stop being so insecure and learn to handle a little competition. If you do not want anyone flirting with your man/woman, date an ugly person 😉 Communication and open honesty is key in relationships but it seems our society is forgetting how to talk out loud. People can still be trusted in this day of endless temptations, opportunity, and lustful intentions. Once sex became easier to get love became harder to find and trust issues maximized. Once you let your jealousy get the best of you, paranoia will set in but if you just stop to think about some of the things in this short list before you get caught up, it might give you some peace of mind.

  1. Do NOT go through your significant others phone, it is an invasion of privacy and although some say you shouldn’t have anything to yourself in a relationship if there are no secrets but think of how paranoid you will end up wondering if everything YOU say could be taken the wrong way…
  2. Be happy when people flirt with your man/woman…you’re dating someone attractive and charming and they are all yours, lucky you! Self Confidence is a key factor in jealousy.
  3. Do not let it makes you become a crazy person, insanity is NOT attractive and your actions could push them away from you.
  4. If someone is making you jealous ask yourself why do you really feel that way? Is the situation a just cause for such a feeling? If so, communication may be needed to set boundaries to prevent crossing the line.

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The First Day of Forever

Today was my only child’s first day of 4 yr old preschool. As I kissed her goodbye and told her to “Have a great day!” I couldn’t help but tear up. My four year old daughter simply said “You don’t have to hold my hand mom, ok.” That’s when it hit me…she is not a baby anymore! I watched her run off with the other curious children not glancing back at me once. I turned around and walked away wondering, what if she doesn’t listen? what if she gets into trouble? What if I didn’t do a good enough job teaching her and she isn’t ready? Being a single mom, I wonder if I can do everything I m supposed to as parent and I learned today, all I can do is hope for the best as she becomes more and more independent. My daughter is a bright kid that is well behaved and I just have to trust that she and I can do this mother-daughter thing successfully. Today is the start of a new life for my daughter as she is a “Big Girl” –A Proud Mom

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In Denial

Everyone knows someone who is dating a person nobody likes. Everyone tells them they are no good and usually have legitimate reasons or proof even for this and the person still continues to date the person. The reason behind this is simple, they are in denial. The definition of denial is the disbelief in the reality of a person, place, or thing. The denier makes an unconscious decision that their feelings about whatever it is that they are denial over, is more threatening then just dealing with the issue. One major form of denial is minimizing, we all do it about, mostly about People do this with personal problems such as drug/alcohol problems or health problems. This is the leading cause of many things that are not going right with a person and directly effects personal goals of happiness. Everyone has something they are avoiding that is weighing on them that they just don’t want to deal with. Denial over the a persons’ true colors, a problem at work, relationship problems, and etc. Denial is like a brick wall, you know there is something on the other side but are unable to see it until you want to. Like a brick wall, denial is a hard wall that must be chipped away at to break through. People have a tough time with denial as it is a change that must be made within ourselves and it is scary to me because it is too close to craziness. To object to something so strongly that you are no longer dealing with reality…So take some time to really think over your problems so that you can find a solution. It may be unpleasant to deal with your problems head on but in the long run it will provide you with a healthier mindset and provide you with better problem solving skills for a happier future..

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Please Say Please, Thank You

       Once Upon a Time…there was common courtesy and manner and politeness, and etiquette. I was raised that you say “Please” “Thank You” and “Excuse Me”. I was raised that when your elders come to the car, you move to the backseat. Also, I remember getting into trouble for chewing with my mouth open and placing my elbows on the table.  I can say I know the proper way to set a dinner table and when I go out to eat, I place my napkin on my lap. It seems that nowadays, people are more lax then ever in teaching their children manners and basic etiquette. How can we forget to teach our children such a value lesson? We all know how frustrating it can be when others are rude to us or even worse, embarrass us in public. It makes all the difference in in the world when we treat others with courtesy and kindness. I can say that I do know parents that are strict on teaching these important lessons…such as myself 😉 My daughter at four years old, quickly smiles at me when she remembers to be polite and even corrects her friends at daycare. I’m proud to have instilled such a significant quality in her. So PLEASE, use your manners and instill common courtesy in your children, friends, and families.THANK YOU 🙂

 

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