The Easy Life

In life, we all go through trials and tribulations, tough situations with painful emotions and life changing circumstances. No one is exempt not even the seemingly perfect people in our lives. Love and grief are the emotions in life that probably affect our inner peace and happiness the most. We make our lives complicated by the choices we make everyday but life itself is easy. Little mistakes can be life-altering as well as fate sealing.
How to live life freely:
1). Remember all things in life are fixable, there’s a solution to every problem
2). Loneliness is only a state of mind…find comfort within yourself
3). Love is true when your heart is true, it knows your brain better then you do but your brain knows your heart better then you do as well

Finding happiness is about finding yourself and surrounding yourself with people who are genuine and love you for you despite your worst flaws. You can choose to be complicated and choose your own sense of completion. See, life is as easy as you make it, just CHOOSE it.

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The Dispersion Of Attachments

How many people are trying to get over their EX? Millions I would say and those people are a crying, emotional, and regretful bunch.  Memories and thoughts of the past echo through every emotion because relationships are dreams, and when those relationships fail, our dreams with it die. RELATIONSHIPS = DEATH.  Haha just kidding… breakups are comparable to death and require a mourning period. There are different ways to mourn the death of a relationship.

  1. Rebound….Takes the mind off the situation and person. This can cause major drama in the meantime and cause a vicious cycle of rebounds that never end till all we all are is a rebound (bummer)
  2. Excessive drinking…helps to numb all the depressing feelings that creep up over every corner, temporarily or at least until the next run to the liquor store. Its possible to cause a real funeral doing this (all bad)
  3. Obsession…Everyone gets a little crazy sometimes and who doesn’t feel flattered knowing that everything about them is being over thought and what really is wrong with calling them 50 times just to hear their voice over 1 more time (overboard)

I remember my first love very well and its demise even more. I remember tears spilling over people who looked like him, said the same words as him.  The pain was practically physical as my heart ached I wondered how I would ever live without him.  Foolishly so, as I was young and in love, the dream of having a family and being  together forever was like floating on a cloud with the occasional  sunless day.  One day a thunderstorm struck and my love took form of raindrops that dropped heavily and soon evaporated thereafter. The correct way to mourn was through time and eventual healing of my heart, soul, and mind. Time apart with gradual separation from  memories and past hopes for the future was the only way I successfully moved on and could let my heart mend. Duct tape really does fix everything BTW 😉

Why???? There are many reasons why relationships fail and die a rotten death. Sometimes mistakes are made, love is taken for granted, we fall for the worst match for us, or sometimes it is just not meant to be. Each relationship is like a stop in the road. Some are caution and yield signs.  Other relationships are stop signs and heaven forbid we run those. With each passing one we need to pause to reflect and learn from it, not doing so causes you to be unprepared for oncoming traffic which leads to accidents (possible unwanted kids, domestic violence, crappy in-laws, messy divorces, etc).  At the end of the trip we will all make it to our destination but without the stops we can’t really appreciate or be happy to be there finally. Breakups are needed to help us get to who we should be with and fill us with the compassion to enjoy the right one.

Why Valentines Day Sucks

February 14 is a crappy bullshit holiday. Why am I so bitter you ask? I am not actually, I just feel everyday you should treat your man/woman like gold not just one day out if the year. Alot of people place the value of their relationship on a single day instead of valuing every moment with them. Yes, I am single but you won’t see me crying about being alone, I enjoy being single. Unfortunately, most of my single friends don’t feel the same and I’ll be on the phone with teary eyed ladies and even gents who want to know why they must suffer a reminder that they haven’t found “the one” yet. Valentines day hurts more people I think, then helps. In the past I’ve had my share of roses, fine dining, chocolates, and teddy bears and that was all great but all material as well. I can’t say I miss spending money trying to impress that special someone either. Well I hope the truly in love enjoy the day, for the rest of us…remember, it is just another Thursday ; )

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All Is Fair in Love and Cheesecake

They say all is fair in love and war but what is REALLY unfair is cheesecake. How can something much like love, be so good yet have such negative long term effects? By this I mean, it is great while your eating it right? Tasty deliciousness with every bite and swallow. So you take another bite and enjoy it like an orgasm in your mouth. Love is great while you are in love, happy giddiness and butterflys. Smiling like an idiot all day and it’s great feeling.

Problem is…Cheesecake is filled with calories and calories become pounds so on and so on. How can something taste so good but be so bad for you? It is simply unfair that it can make you gain weight and effect your overall appearance.  How can love create such happiness and such heartbreak when it is over or reaches a rough patch? The answer is simple, there needs to be balance in life. To much of anything is not good for you. Moderation is key and this applies to love as well because with cheesecake, you must be informed of the possible “consequences” before taking the plunge . As great as these wonderful things in life are, sometimes things just aren’t “fair”. 

Love and Flower Gardens

Love is a lot like a flower garden. Both of which require time, patience, dedication, and perseverance.

A flower garden begins with healthy soil rich with nutrients ready for growing. Next, seeds are planted and now begins the steady growing and blossoming process. This process cannot begin in unhealthy soil as it will quickly wither. Love is much like this as you must be ready and complete before attempting to start a relationship otherwise it withers right away. Loving yourself first and foremost is essential as no one can complete you, only add/compliment your existing brilliance. Once the seed has been planted, natural chemistry takes and growth begins. One of the most beautiful feelings is falling in love I think most people would agree. 

    After the garden begins to sprout and flowers begin to blossom, it requires constant TLC. Fall behind and the stems and petals begin to fall apart. If you give up or become neglectful, weeds grow and the flowers become subjected to the elements. It takes time and dedication for your relationship as well and love grows over time from a single flower to an abundance of color and beauty. If you neglect your partners’ needs, wants, and desires, and it too will wither. Moral of the story is… Love is like a garden, with time and dedication your end result will beautiful!

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