The Dispersion Of Attachments

How many people are trying to get over their EX? Millions I would say and those people are a crying, emotional, and regretful bunch.  Memories and thoughts of the past echo through every emotion because relationships are dreams, and when those relationships fail, our dreams with it die. RELATIONSHIPS = DEATH.  Haha just kidding… breakups are comparable to death and require a mourning period. There are different ways to mourn the death of a relationship.

  1. Rebound….Takes the mind off the situation and person. This can cause major drama in the meantime and cause a vicious cycle of rebounds that never end till all we all are is a rebound (bummer)
  2. Excessive drinking…helps to numb all the depressing feelings that creep up over every corner, temporarily or at least until the next run to the liquor store. Its possible to cause a real funeral doing this (all bad)
  3. Obsession…Everyone gets a little crazy sometimes and who doesn’t feel flattered knowing that everything about them is being over thought and what really is wrong with calling them 50 times just to hear their voice over 1 more time (overboard)

I remember my first love very well and its demise even more. I remember tears spilling over people who looked like him, said the same words as him.  The pain was practically physical as my heart ached I wondered how I would ever live without him.  Foolishly so, as I was young and in love, the dream of having a family and being  together forever was like floating on a cloud with the occasional  sunless day.  One day a thunderstorm struck and my love took form of raindrops that dropped heavily and soon evaporated thereafter. The correct way to mourn was through time and eventual healing of my heart, soul, and mind. Time apart with gradual separation from  memories and past hopes for the future was the only way I successfully moved on and could let my heart mend. Duct tape really does fix everything BTW 😉

Why???? There are many reasons why relationships fail and die a rotten death. Sometimes mistakes are made, love is taken for granted, we fall for the worst match for us, or sometimes it is just not meant to be. Each relationship is like a stop in the road. Some are caution and yield signs.  Other relationships are stop signs and heaven forbid we run those. With each passing one we need to pause to reflect and learn from it, not doing so causes you to be unprepared for oncoming traffic which leads to accidents (possible unwanted kids, domestic violence, crappy in-laws, messy divorces, etc).  At the end of the trip we will all make it to our destination but without the stops we can’t really appreciate or be happy to be there finally. Breakups are needed to help us get to who we should be with and fill us with the compassion to enjoy the right one.

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Autumn Leaves & Pumpkin Seeds

To begin the year in Michigan, one must sport a winter coat, gloves, hat, and snow boots. As many put it, the weather simply sucks.  It is dreary, cold, and gray.  Snowball fights and building snowmen are simple joys even us adults can succumb to.  Shoveling snow and sidewalks is no one’s chore of choice but is great exercise 😉 As the winter fades, it slowly warms the hearts of many with warm breezes and sweetly scented spring flowers. The spring is lovely in Michigan and a welcome beginning to a new year.  When I think of spring I immediately think of gardening, shopping for summer clothes, and car washes. The summer is next, and boy it is beautiful! The northern beaches and hot summer romances are just some of the highlights, of course we all perk up at the sound of an ice cream truck (this never gets old).  Summertime is great as throughout the state there are festivals of all kinds. Wheatland music festival, the Cherry festival, Maple Syrup festival, the Irish festival, and one of my personal favorites: Hash Bash (lol). Out of all of the seasons, nothing compares to Autumn/Fall/Pumpkin season. The crisp winds blowing throughout the trees brings comfort from the heat and humidity at last.  Swirls of yellow, orange, and red as the leaves change dropping from the trees. Another fun activity called “raking the leaves” to provide us Michiganders with something to do. With Indian summers starting in September, next comes Halloween, a spirited (no pun intended) holiday that is filled with laughter, excitement, and imagination.  Pumpkin season is here and this gives us the enough to pumpkin to make as much pumpkin pie, roasted pumpkin seeds, and pumpkin spice lattes as our little hearts can bear.  A great season and one might say…the BEST season.